How To Be An LGBTQ Ally

Ally is Not an Identity 

Being an ally is more than standing up for a community even when they’re not around.

Things to Do 

• Acknowledge that “ally” is not an identity.
• Check your privilege at all times.
• Do not assume the sexual orientation or gender identity of another person.
• Speak out against offensive statements or actions you see or hear.
• Use gender non-specific language, like “partner” instead of “boyfriend” or “girlfriend.”
• Respect the coming out process, and understand that some information may be off limits.
• Know that your opinion takes a backseat to those with experience.
• Listen when someone opens up about their experience.
• Validate people’s sexual orientation and gender expression. If a person shares preferred pronouns with you, be intentional about using them, even when they aren’t in the room. If someone tells you about their same-sex partner, ask about their relationship like you would a straight friend’s.
• Educate yourself about LGBT histories, cultures, and concerns.
• Involve yourself/support LGBT organizations and causes.

Educate Yourself  

• Understand that knowing marginalized people ≠ being inclusive
• Be honest about things you don’t understand—don’t try to fake it! Respectful questions are generally better than making assumptions about someone’s identity.
• A person’s gender identity is different than a person’s sexual orientation.
• When someone comes out, it does not mean they are sexually attracted to you.
• Do not ‘out’ a person as LGBTQ to others. Respect people’s privacy and recognize that it should be their decision when and with whom to share their LGBT identity.
• The transition experience is different for each trans person.
• Be aware of the vital role you can play as an ally.
• Remember the intricacies of oppression.

Read more:  http://theshaananigans.wordpress.com/2013/02/16/ally-is-not-an-identity/